Excellent start at unwinding a very thorny subject!
I commend the producers and willing participants in this "how-to" guide to healthy gay/lesbian relationships. The emphasis here is on gay men, but the principles of finding and working-out relationships of all kinds, are the same regardless of the coupled gender mix. I really appreciated the emphasis here on the analysis part of gay male relationships. The film spends time analyzing why gay men in relationships often fail. It is partly gender, partly psychosocial. Nonetheless, the primary message that cannot be overemphasized and which the film's therapists and participants repeat is: "KNOW THYSELF." It won't be easy work, but know yourself and be aware of the impact that growing-up being rejected and judged has had on your self-esteem and value as a human being. While there are other layers that affect an individual's development (i.e., political and cultural matters), familial dysfunction is probably the primary influence and the most convoluted and challenging to 'unpack'. Familial...
"The Gay Breakfast Club"
This documentary reminded me of the 80's classic teen movie, "The Breakfast Club" but with less neon and more gayer. Also, no one put lipstick on with there breasts. It portrayed different personality types and their struggle to find love in a not so accepting world. Just like the struggle a lot of us had with our identities in high school and the "gay-world" can sometimes seem like never-ending High School. You have the never-satisfied "princess", the self-defeating "jock", the buckle-under-pressure "geek", the rebellious "rebel", and the self-explanatory "freak". Very good watch!
Brilliance!
Now I normally do not get all excited about a. . . documentary. At all. But this was one that's really been long in coming for those who are part of the Broken Hearts Club.
If you have an hour, and want to know more about the gay community, and why it's so difficult to find a date, or be in a monogamous, long-term relationship; why gay men have been so shallow, or even why it's just so difficult to connect with others (besides the fact that they're shallow), this will probably give you a lot of answers to those questions.
All in all, it's really refreshing to see purely gay men being open and honest about the long-term relationship scene in the gay world, and providing the answers to help correct that. (I was also surprised by some of the statistics they have, such as only 1/3 - 1/2 of gay men are in relationships, and only 50% in relationships are monogamous.)
If you're looking to better your life, or your prospects for finding Mr. Right, then I...
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